How My Mom’s Kitchen Advice is Hindering Your Writing

photo by Suzanne T, during every cooking show my mom watches she tells the professional on the screen you shouldn’t crack the eggs right into the dish you’re preparing; what if one of the eggs is bad? You just ruined the whole thing!

Oh, and when you’re done washing the dishes and wiping the table, rinse the dish cloth in cold water. Prevents germs from growing so it doesn’t start to stink.

My mom grew up in a home and a time when eggs could be dodgy and when laundry was done weekly, not daily (or more.)

Those TV chefs? They probably use hand-selected organic custom eggs from their private stock.

The dishcloth? Own 7. Wash in bleach. No smell.

Here are some writing questions I see all the time:

  • How can I find time for my writing?
  • I have so many ideas. Which should I choose?
  • What if I write a book and no one buys it?
  • What if I write a book and it’s no good?
  • Should I use Scrivener? Or Word? Or a calligraphy pen?
  • Will you just write it for me?

Those are the wrong questions. I made up some of the details. But the feelings are all real.

Here’s the question those questions are masking:

What if I fail?

All the questions we use to prevent ourselves from starting are so we don’t have to experience those things at the other end. And those things at the other end? They’re all words that mean “failure.”

That’s the question: what if I fail?

The answer is, those who dare greatly have already succeeded.

Dare greatly by writing your book, and the quality will be higher than you expect. Sales won’t matter, because whether they’re few or many, you’ll know you’ve done something worthy. You’ll skip over all those fussy questions about mechanics.

Dare greatly, and you succeed.

Even if you fail.

5 thoughts on “How My Mom’s Kitchen Advice is Hindering Your Writing

  1. Another face of Resistance (ala Steven Pressfield). Reminds me to check every “preparation” task I come up with so see if it’s real purpose is to keep me from my work.

    1. Excellent point Michael. (And welcome to the blog and the newsletter, by the way.)

      Resistance is a bully, and it slips in wherever it can. Insidious creeping bully.

      Track down Oprah’s interview with Steven on her Super Soul Sunday show online. Good stuff.

      1. Saw the interview (I subscribe to his Writing Wednesday blog) – was great stuff. I’m re-reading the War of Art again…
        Did you read the Authentic Swing, and if so, what did you think?

        1. Callie was kind enough to send me an advance copy.

          It is magnificent.

          Combines Steve’s experience from War of Art and Turning Pro to show how he pulled Bagger Vance together. But as always, there’s a larger lesson.

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