Over the years I’ve met a particular personality type and of late they seem to be showing up in my feeds more often: the folks who for all appearances do not care at all what other people think of them.
These are the folks who say “When I called your idea stupid and it hurt your feelings, that’s on you. They’re your feelings.” When they get negative feedback, it has no appreciable impact.
I do not like these people, but they do seem to be immune to Resistance.
Brain befuddling thought: perhaps they are Resistance embodied. They have never and will never let anyone close enough to hurt them, which keeps Resistance at bay because, y’know, vampires don’t bite other vampires (do they? I do know know any vampires so I’m guessing here.)
Long ago a writer friend gave me some blunt feedback about my writing and said I was going to have to grow a thick skin to be an artist. I disagree, vehemently. To create requires transparent skin; we’re sharing what’s inside us for the world to see. What we have to grow is the strength not to listen to the haters or even the well-meaning-but-wrong friends.
Creating something requires caring enough to be vulnerable. I have some prejudices about the ability of the people I mentioned earlier to create work that would move me. I’m okay with being wrong about that, if that’s how it turns out.
This is #1 on the list Ways Not to Deal with Resistance.
If your book makes me feel like I’ve participated in an experience I could never have in real life, but wish I could, it’s the single greatest indicator of whether I’ll read more of your work.
That’s both a blessing and a curse.
Blessing, because I’ll forgive all kinds of things from illogical plot developments to thinly-developed characters if, in the end, you took me on a ride I wanted to take.
Curse, because there are so many things that can yank me out of the magic place we’ve gone together, and suddenly, instead of fleeing thugs down a dark alley, I’m reading a book with a confusing or misworded sentence. Instead of having a chat with a flying unicorn, I’m reading a pointless description of how to shoe a flying unicorn.
… more … “Vicarious Experience (Story Engineering and Physics #11 of 12)”
Here are a few things I believe about being an author in 2013:
- It’s a great time to be an artist
- It’s a tough time to sell art
- Reading is a fundamental human activity; even reading for pleasure
- Yes, we need more books
- And more authors
- And more music and art of all kinds
- Gatekeepers serve no purpose in the world of art
- Selling art is still a business
- We have more tools than we can use, for writing, marketing, reading, sharing
- Literature is not an endangered species
- Nor are readers
- Or writers
- Or print
- Money comes second, or third; writing comes first
- Some people don’t believe that, but I don’t think it’s just my opinion, I think it’s a fact
- Nobody writes without fear
- Emotional fears do far more damage than good
- I hold back far more than you think I do
- Helping authors is more important to me than money
- I’d still love to have plenty of money and so would you
That’s the short version of the list.
And none of that is why I do what I do.
… more … “The Real Reason I Do This”